First Date Kiss Etiquette

ABC’s The Bachelor is back on. We all see a good looking guy dating many women in hopes of finding “The One.” He gives a rose and a request to stay and a mother date. Kinda like the real world, right. Well, along with the many red roses he gave one young lady a passionate kiss. Some viewers were appalled, others didn’t care.
Normally the first kiss is private, so we are able to make a personal judgment if we feel comfortable to give an open mouth kiss to a person we recently met.
I honestly do not have any set rules except “Do you!” Only go as far as you feel comfortable with… Nothing more.
My second advice is to keep breath fresh mints handy.
💋What do you think?
💋Do you kiss on the 1st date?



Protesting Laws and Etiquette

Peaceful protesters for Trayvon Martin
Peaceful protesters for Trayvon Martin

Saturday night, July 13, 2013, I sat in my car and stared at my phone. Throughout the day I tried to stay occupied while waiting for the Trayvon Martin/Zimmerman trial verdict to come in. I checked twitter, online news sites, and Facebook to stay abreast of any and all updates. Well, at 7:50pm I looked at my phone and wanted to cry. George Zimmerman, 29, was found not guilty for shooting unarmed, 17-year-old, Trayvon Martin.

Like many fellow Americans I followed the Martin family as they pushed for Zimmerman’s arrest and I watched the case unfold on television. I was saddened because I have a black father, two brothers, and three nephews. I was scared for them and all black men, women, and children who not only heard the verdict, but also translated that “Not Guilty” verdict into, “it is okay to shoot them (and me) because someone ‘fears’ me.” I felt physical pain in my heart. I started tuning my car radio dial to listen for local protest and stations taking phone calls from LA listeners.

As I listened to one person after the next call and complain about the verdict I decided I was going to take part in my first protest. Yeah, I had listened to leaders speak at parks, written a letter to my school principal to protest our dress code, and beeped my horn in support of other protesters on the street. I had never held a sign or chanted for equality. I didn’t know what to expect. The Trayvon Martin trial was dear to me and many other people, so I was not sure if other protesters planned to burn and loot buildings like the LA riots of 1992, following the acquittal of four police officers that brutally beat African-American, Rodney King.

NBA players for the Miami Heat stand with hoodies up in silent protest for Trayvon Martin
NBA players for the Miami Heat stand with hoodies up in silent protest for Trayvon Martin

If I planned to protest I was going to do it right. True to my type A personality, I researched my rights, the laws, and etiquette related to protesting (and a possible arrest). After watching several unruly Martin supports and protesters on the evening news jumping on cars and terrorizing other civilians I decided to share how you and I can have a peaceful but affective protest for Trayvon Martin… or anything you believe in.

Protest Do’s

  • Do know your rights. 1st Amendment protects your right to assemble and your right to free speech. You can hand out flyers, chant, beat a drum and dance. Wear your T-shirts, wave your flag and carry signs. You can even bring puppets (yup, you can have a PUPPET at a protest).
  • Do let people decline accepting flyers. Give people the choice to walk away or through the rally.
  • Do say what you want to support your values and gripes. You can criticize, swear, and yell about the government, officials, or a corporation. You CANNOT threaten violence or any bodily harm toward anyone or anything. Oh yeah, it’s against the law to threaten the president and vice president… your butt will land in jail with a federal charge.
  • You can protest ANYWHERE you want as long as it is public property, but you need a permit if you want to use the street, highway, or sidewalks.
  • You can attend a protest and heckle and yell that you disagree. Stay safe. The majority of the people at a protest agree with one view. If you plan to heckle make sure you have your facts and your get away plan.
  • Do have a trusted attorney on alert in case things go down hill.
A protest escalates to violence during a Los Angeles May Day event.
A protest escalates to violence during a Los Angeles May Day event.

Protest Don’t

  • DO NOT threaten violence or act in a violent or uncivilized way. The police are watching and you will be locked up. What voice will you have if you are in a tiny cell. Think about it!
  • Don’t abuse anyone, burn anything, threaten anyone or argue with police.
  • Avoid bringing guns, knives, pocket knives, or any weapon to a protest. You want people to come and hear your point of view. Weapons will only alarm them and fear violence.
  • Don’t stick around if a police office tells you to disperse. Calmly get his name and badge number to make a complaint and rectify the situation for the next protest.
  • Don’t forget your ID at home. Don’t carry a fake ID. Don’t for get valuable phone numbers. If you get arrested the police will ask for an idea and take all of your belongings… including your phone. You will need to legally ID yourself and make that one phone call for bail.
  • Try not to get arrested. If you do see the paddy wagon in the horizon go peacefully. Don’t fight the police. Like we saw on the Rodney King attack tape, the police have sticks and they will use them. They can also tase you bro., so choose to fight it in court.
  • Don’t stop and start with a protest. Find several peaceful ways to get your views heard (like the Miami Heat players in the picture above), by your local officials, news networks, and fellow people.

Go protest and be safe.

I can report that my first protest was calm and I loved being around people that shared my views.

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Etiquette & Kaepernick

15colin-kaepernickNFL player Colin Kaepernick has created a media storm for protesting police brutality and inequalities in America for minorities by sitting down during The National Anthem, which is played before every NFL game. Though the NFL organization states players are not required to stand, many people have become angry with Kaepernick, calling him a traitor and his protest tactic disrespectful. Is Kaepernick practicing good etiquette or promoting disrespect for his country?

Unlike many other countries, The National Anthem statute is a request not a law. Kaepernicks’ first amendment right surpasses all naysayers and 36 U.S. Code § 301 – National Anthem. Good etiquette is respecting other people, listening, and treating a person the way you want to be treated. With a history including slavery, Trail of Tears, and suffrage, we all know America has not treated all citizens equally. Therefore, Kaepernicks protest is legal and encouraged. United States civil rights laws changed in 1964 by protest and government attention, not from people hoping other people “do the right thing.”

Every American citizen should feel passionate when holding their hand over their heart and singing the national anthem. If a person does not feel the same passion as you may, and shares why, don’t tell them to “shut up.” An American Citizen with good etiquette will listen and help their fellow man achieve the rights he so desires. A true American would encourage the entire United States to live up to the lyrics of The National Anthem they hold so dear.

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If you are interested in The National Anthem and flag etiquette please read below:


The composition consisting of the words and music known as the Star-Spangled Banner is the national anthem.

(b)Conduct During Playing.—During a rendition of the national anthem—

(1) when the flag is displayed—

(A) individuals in uniform should give the military salute at the first note of the anthem and maintain that position until the last note;

(B) members of the Armed Forces and veterans who are present but not in uniform may render the military salute in the manner provided for individuals in uniform; and

(C) all other persons present should face the flag and stand at attention with their right hand over the heart, and men not in uniform, if applicable, should remove their headdress with their right hand and hold it at the left shoulder, the hand being over the heart; and

(2) when the flag is not displayed, all present should face toward the music and act in the same manner they would if the flag were displayed.


Who Is Marilyn Mosby

Maylin Mosby, ‪‎Flyy Girl ‬Etiquette
“To the people of Baltimore and the demonstrators across America, I heard your call for ‘no justice, no peace,’” Mosby stated during Friday’s press conference announcing the charges against 6 Baltimore police officers. “To the youth of this city: I will seek justice on your behalf.”

Marilyn Mosby Flyy girl EtiquetteWe are excited  to have a new example of power, intelligence, and beauty as a model for young women. Mrs Mosby is a shining example of what a Flyy Girl with Etiquette truly is.

Slut Shaming

Flyy Girl Slut Shaming

We have been hearing a lot about slut-shaming in the media lately. What is labeling a person as a slut?  The act of making a woman or girl feel inferior or guilty for her sexual behavior, social situation or clothing because it deviates from traditional societal expectations is called slut shaming.

I hate slut shaming. It’s when a person slaps the scarlet letter “S” on a woman, or girl to define her as having so little intellectual worth that they label her as a person who must use their body or sex for public adulation, i.e. dressing like a whore, sounding trashy, and having sex. Slut shaming is what people do a female when they don’t want to deal with a deeper issue that reveals something about themselves.

If you watch Atlanta Housewives, follow the Amber Rose, Khloe Kardashian and Kanye West banter, and many comments on social media you are well aware that we use slut shaming as a way to silence a woman. Slut, whore, hoe, tramp, THOT are labels we have all heard and probably said. An attack toward a female is always to stop her in her tracks and stifle her voice. Why does society label women as sluts and whores? Because it works. Women are so scared to be labeled as a bitch, a hoe, or a slut we bite our tongues. We also use slut shaming to keep a person in the group we think they belong to. The snobs, the poor folks, ghetto are all pushed toward slut labels as a form of bias.

In an Armstrong and Hamilton 2004 college slut-shaming study the women had different conceptions of what constituted a campus slut, with the low-status women pinning sluttiness on “rich bitches in sororities,” and the high-status women aligning sluttiness with women they perceived as “trashy,” not “classy.”

We can look at the current slut-shaming fights in Hollywood. Amber Rose verses Kloe Kardashian Twitter war is an example. The 30 showers Kanye West said he had to take after being with former stripper, Amber Rose, just to date and marry wealthier Kim Kardashian, top selling sex video personality. Have we heard anything from Amber Rose’s Twitter account since? Keep in mind Amber Rose only stated her dismay about a twenty-five year old man dating a minor aged Kardashian.

I write this piece to not point fingers. I want all of us to look at how we ingroup, shame, and mute each other.


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Survive a winter storm without killing your family & friends.

The winter blizzard of 2015 makes me giddy when I think about staying home from work and watching beautiful white snow fall. But, as soon as a few hours pass I begin to catch cabin fever. I wonder how I’m going to survive hours and days stuck in the house with my family. Ugh, the terror. Well, if you’re anything like me you will appreciate my tools for surviving a snow storm with your family.

⛄️ Stock the house with goodies: Food, games, movies, firewood, wine (for adults), hot cocoa, and candles. People are happiest when busy, distracted, warm, and full.
️Avoid arguing at all cost. Cabin fever will hit after a day of being stuck inside. You and your housemates will get annoyed with each other, it’s okay. Breathe, grab a cookie and a drink.
⛄️ Keep birth control handy… if you’re not planning to get pregnant. Keeping cozy during a storm results in fall babies.
Get a full tank of gas in your car. When the roads are clear you will want to get out for some new scenery or restock on food.


Cauliflower Pizza Crust Pizza

Hey Flyy Girls,

I made a healthy version of pizza, replacing the heavy bread crust with healthy cauliflower. I promise you this pizza was sooooo good I may never get pizza delivery again. It is gluten free, low carb, low calorie, and 10407714_10152986225965900_2773127434582848028_nyummy.

Cauliflower pizza and crust
1 medium cauliflower head
1 cup mozzarella
Dry Oregano
Dry basil
Garlic powder
1 egg
Parchment paper


Pizza Sauce, cheese, and all of your favorites

Preheat oven to 450. Put pizza stone or baking sheet in oven.
Cut green leaves from off cauliflower. Wash cauliflower. Dry cauliflower as much as you can. Cut cauliflower in half.
Grade cauliflower in small grader (should look like rice).
Only grade florets not stem. (You can use a food processor on pulse too)
Cook or microwave for 4 minutes.
Let cool a bit. Put graded cauliflower in heavy paper towel or thin clean dish towel or cheese cloth.
Squeeze Squeeze Squeeze all water out.
*You should get about a 1/3 – 2/3 cup of water.
Put cauliflower in bowl.
Mix in with your hands 1/2 cup mozzarella, oregano, basil, salt, and egg.
Put cauliflower mix on parchment paper and flatten to make round crust. Put parchment & crust over stone and bake 5-8 minutes.
Take out of oven and put pizza sauce and toppings on crust. 
Bake for 5-8 minutes or until cheese is melted and golden.


Flyy Girl Etiquette Guide to Accomplishing Your 2015 Resolutions

1) Pick one thing at a time: Don’t overwhelm yourself with a complete makeover. Success brings success. When you accomplish one goal it is easier accomplish the next.

2) Plan ahead: Set little goals to accomplish your big goal

3) Expect setbacks: Every journey has pot holes, so plan how you will overcome them.

4) Pick a reasonable start date: You can start before January 1, or after… just start.

5) Commit! Just Do It! Go For It!: You should attack your goal 100%. Make it your daily habit to succeed.

6) Reward yourself.